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wise-marmot-560

Woke up in the ICU not knowing what happened — almost 18 months later, still processing it all

I don't really know why I'm posting this today. Maybe I just need somewhere to put it.

About a year and a half ago I was driving home from a late shift when a pickup ran a red light and T-boned me at full speed. I don't remember the impact. I don't remember the ambulance. My first real memory is waking up in an ICU bed, seeing my mom and my brother sitting against the wall looking exhausted, and not understanding why my chest felt like a truck was parked on it. Because, well — basically one had been.

I had a collapsed lung, several broken ribs, a fractured pelvis, and a pretty serious traumatic brain injury. I was in the hospital for almost three weeks. The TBI part has been the strangest to deal with — memory gaps, weird mood swings, not feeling like myself in ways that are hard to explain to people who haven't been through it.

The physical stuff is slowly getting better. I do PT twice a week, I see a neurologist, I have a therapist who specializes in trauma. My support system is real and I'm grateful for it.

But nobody tells you how long it takes. How some mornings you wake up and it feels like it just happened. How you get frustrated that you're not "better" yet when people around you think you should be.

I do have a PI case open — liability was clear and the other driver's insurance accepted fault pretty quickly. That part is moving, slowly.

I guess I just wanted to share, and maybe hear from others who are deep in a long recovery. Does it actually get better? Like really better?

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    hearty-swift-595

    TBI recovery timelines are so individual and honestly not well understood even by a lot of medical providers. The mood changes, the memory gaps, the sense of being a slightly different person — that's real neurological stuff, not you being dramatic. Please make sure your neurologist knows about every symptom including the emotional ones, because sometimes adjustments to the treatment plan (therapy type, rest protocols, even diet) can make a meaningful difference. You're doing the right things. Keep showing up for your appointments even on the days it feels pointless.

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    warm-wolf-975

    Speaking from the other side of that desk — TBI claims make adjusters nervous because the long-tail costs are hard for them to model. That actually works in your favor IF you have solid medical documentation over time. Every appointment, every symptom, every therapy session — make sure it's all in records. The paper trail for a long recovery like yours is genuinely valuable. Don't skip appointments even when you're feeling okay.

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      patient-driver537

      Appreciate the detailed write-up. Saving this for later.

  • 20
    plain-elk-705

    You have a team. You have family in that room with you. You have a therapist who gets trauma. I know it doesn't make the hard days easier but you are genuinely not doing this alone, and that puts you ahead of a lot of people who land in situations like yours. Root for yourself a little — you've already survived the hardest part.

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    brave-marmot-044

    Really glad liability got sorted quickly, but please be careful as your case moves forward. 'Accepting fault' early doesn't mean they're on your side — adjusters are still watching for any opportunity to minimize what your long-term TBI recovery is actually worth. Don't let them push for a fast settlement before you and your doctors have a real picture of where you'll be in another year or two.

    • 5
      steady-rider253

      Did you have to escalate, or did they come around after the first ask?

  • 18
    swift-mole-903

    Yes, it actually gets better. But 18 months post-TBI is still pretty early in the big picture — I know that's not what you want to hear. Give yourself at least another year before you decide what your 'new normal' looks like. In the meantime: sleep, hydration, and protecting yourself from overstimulation matter more than most people realize for brain recovery. Boring advice but it's real.

    • 4
      steady-walker103

      Going through something similar right now. Did following up actually move the needle for you?

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    warm-mole-038

    It gets better. Not linearly, not on anyone else's schedule, but it genuinely does. I had a TBI from a rear-end collision two years ago and the 'not feeling like myself' thing you described hit me hard reading this. Around month 14 I noticed I was having more good days than bad ones. That shift happened quietly and I almost missed it. You're not behind — you're just in the middle of it.

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    daring-otter-187

    Not legal advice, but I'll say this: the 'still processing it' feeling you described is exactly why experienced PI attorneys in TBI cases typically want to wait until a client reaches maximum medical improvement before resolving a claim. The value of your case includes future care, not just what's happened so far. Make sure whoever is representing you understands TBI cases specifically — it's a different animal than a standard soft-tissue claim.

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    silent-wren-224

    I don't have any experience with accidents but I just want to say — thank you for sharing this. The part about waking up not knowing what happened gave me chills. You've been through something enormous and you're still here talking about it. That matters.

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      mellow-fox-618

      One thing worth flagging: with a TBI, getting a comprehensive neuropsychological evaluation (not just standard neuro follow-ups) can really strengthen a claim because it documents cognitive and functional impacts in a structured way. If your treatment team hasn't suggested one yet, it might be worth asking about. Not telling you what to do legally — just something I've seen come up a lot in these kinds of cases.

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      kind-parent125

      Seconding this. The same approach worked for me last year.