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Two accidents in one week and I've never even had a fender bender before — completely lost

I'm still kind of in shock writing this out. I've been driving for over a decade with a completely clean record and then suddenly the universe decides to throw two accidents at me within the same week. I don't even know where to start.

Incident #1: I was parked outside a grocery store and came back to find my rear bumper crumpled. Someone actually did the right thing and tucked a handwritten note under my wiper with their name and phone number. I was honestly relieved — I figured this would be straightforward. I called them, they said they'd already reported it to their insurer, and they gave me a claim number and an adjuster's name. That was five days ago. I've called and left three voicemails. Nothing. Radio silence.

Incident #2: This one's worse. A few days later I'm merging onto a surface road and someone clips the front corner of my car pretty hard. I gesture to pull over, he sort of waves back like he agrees — and then just... disappears into traffic. I circled back, waited, filed a police report. No plate number because I panicked. No dashcam. Trust me, I know.

So now I've got one claim stuck in limbo waiting on someone else's adjuster, and a hit-and-run where I might be on the hook through my own uninsured motorist coverage — if I even have it. I honestly don't know what's in my policy.

Do I call my own insurance now for both of these? Will opening claims spike my rates even if neither was my fault? Does the police report help at all for the hit-and-run? Any advice from people who've been through something like this would mean a lot right now.

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  • 13
    keen-owl-705

    Oh man, the hit-and-run thing hit close to home for me. I had almost the exact same experience — guy rear-ended me, agreed to pull over, and just vanished. Filed the police report same night and it actually helped a lot when I went through my own uninsured motorist coverage. Definitely dig into your policy documents tonight and look for 'uninsured motorist' or 'UM/UIM' — if you have it, that's probably your path forward for incident #2.

    • 1
      steady-wanderer795

      Same boat here. Did anyone mention a deadline to watch out for?

  • 12
    warm-owl-536

    That adjuster going silent on you for days is a classic stall tactic, intentional or not. Don't just keep leaving voicemails — send an email so you have a paper trail. If you called your own insurer they'd have more leverage to light a fire under the other company. The other driver's insurer works for them, not you. Never forget that.

    • 6
      level-mile-marker894

      Saving this whole thread. Really appreciate the honesty here.

  • 13
    swift-wolf-338

    I used to work claims and I'll be real with you: third-party claimants (that's you, waiting on someone else's insurance) get deprioritized. Their policyholder — the person who hit you — is the customer. You're not. Going through your own carrier often actually speeds things up because now your insurer is pushing the other side. As for rates, at-fault accidents raise premiums; not-at-fault claims handled through UM coverage typically don't, but that varies by state and policy. Worth a direct call to your agent to ask before you file.

  • 13
    wise-lynx-675

    A few practical things that might help:

    1. Document everything now — photos of both damage areas, timestamps, the handwritten note from incident #1, your police report number from incident #2. 2. Request your full policy declarations page if you don't have it handy so you can see exactly what coverages you're carrying. 3. For the hit-and-run, most states require a police report filed within a certain window to use UM coverage — sounds like you filed one, which is great. Just make sure you have the report number in writing.

    Not legal advice, just stuff I see come up constantly in this kind of situation.

  • 13
    humble-stoat-059

    Are you feeling okay physically? Sometimes the adrenaline from an accident masks soreness or stiffness that shows up a day or two later — especially whiplash-type stuff from being clipped at speed. If anything starts feeling off in your neck or back, don't brush it off. Get seen and make sure it's documented, because if you later need treatment it's much harder to connect it to the accident without early medical records.

  • 12
    calm-beaver-884

    Call your own insurer today. For both. Stop waiting on an adjuster who isn't calling you back — that's not your job to chase. Your insurance company has a financial interest in resolving this efficiently. Let them do the legwork. Yes, get a dashcam. Like, this week.

    • 8
      weary-driver127

      Solid advice. Getting it in writing is the part most people skip.

  • 20
    mellow-sparrow-422

    Two accidents in one week after years of nothing — that's just awful luck and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. The stress alone must be exhausting on top of everything else. Please don't beat yourself up about not grabbing the plate number in the moment. Most people freeze. You did the right thing filing the police report. Hope things start moving in the right direction for you soon 💙

  • 16
    spry-lynx-846

    Not legal advice, but worth knowing: if the other driver from incident #1 already filed a claim with their own insurer, that insurer owes you a timely response under most states' fair claims settlement laws. 'Timely' is usually defined somewhere in your state's insurance code — often 10 to 15 business days to acknowledge and begin investigating. If they keep ghosting you, that may actually be a regulatory violation you can report to your state's insurance commissioner. Something to keep in your back pocket.

  • 10
    spry-beaver-786

    Just curious — when you say the person from incident #1 'filed a claim,' did they actually give you a confirmation claim number, or just say they did? Because I've heard of people leaving notes and then never actually reporting it, hoping the other person just goes away. A real claim number you can verify with the insurer directly is pretty different from someone just telling you they filed.