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Store I crashed into posted my dashcam footage publicly — can I do anything about it?

This whole situation has been a nightmare and I need some outside perspective because I genuinely don't know what's normal here.

About six weeks ago I was in a pretty bad accident where my car ended up hitting a small retail building after I lost control on a wet road. Nobody was seriously hurt, thank god, but there was real damage to the property. The business owner has already sent a demand letter through their insurance, so I know that whole thing is coming.

What I didn't expect was what they did next. Within a few days of the accident, someone associated with the business posted security footage of the crash on their public social media — and I mean fully public, shared everywhere — with my license plate clearly visible, comments calling me out by name (they must have looked me up), and a caption basically framing me as reckless and dangerous.

The post got shared a lot locally. People I barely know have been messaging me about it. My employer saw it. It's been genuinely humiliating and it's affecting my mental health and my job situation in ways I'm still figuring out.

I get that I'm probably on the hook for some of the property damage — I'm not trying to dodge that. But is what they did legal? Does publishing footage with my personal info and editorializing about my character cross any line? Could that be relevant to how my case plays out, or is it just something I have to live with?

I feel like two things can be true at once — I may owe them something AND they may have handled this in a way that wasn't okay. Am I wrong to even be thinking about this?

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    humble-vole-478

    I had something similar happen — not identical, but after my accident the other party was posting about it on Facebook in ways that felt really one-sided and personal. It made the whole claims process so much more stressful because suddenly everyone had an opinion. What helped me was just completely going dark on social media and letting my insurance handle all communication. The public drama eventually died down even though it felt permanent at the time.

    • 5
      careful-commuter554

      Did you have to escalate, or did they come around after the first ask?

  • 16
    humble-fox-192

    The business posting that footage publicly before any legal process played out feels really calculated to me. Like, why do that unless you're trying to apply social pressure? I'd be documenting every single share, comment, and screenshot right now before anything gets deleted. That stuff could be useful later and you don't want to lose it.

    • 8
      patient-survivor160

      Really glad you posted an update — gives the rest of us some hope.

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    calm-dove-899

    A few things worth knowing: there's a difference between sharing footage (which is generally harder to challenge) and adding commentary that makes specific factual claims about your character or intent — that second part is where defamation arguments start to have more traction. Also, looking up your personal information from your plate and publishing it alongside accusations may implicate privacy statutes depending on where you are. Bring screenshots to any attorney consult, organized by date.

  • 13
    quiet-finch-787

    Two separate issues: 1) their property damage claim against you — deal with that through your insurance. 2) what they posted — screenshot everything today, then talk to a lawyer about whether it crosses into defamation or privacy violation territory. Don't mix the two up in your head or try to use one to avoid the other. Handle them separately and cleanly.

    • 6
      hopeful-wanderer643

      Same boat here. Did anyone mention a deadline to watch out for?

  • 12
    calm-kestrel-711

    I just want to say — the mental health piece you mentioned is real and valid. Public humiliation like this, especially when it bleeds into your workplace, can cause genuine anxiety and stress that compounds everything else you're already dealing with from the accident itself. Please don't brush that off. If you're not already talking to someone, even a few sessions with a counselor could help you get through this period, and it's also worth documenting if the stress is affecting your daily functioning.

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    silent-owl-707

    What exactly did the caption say? There's a big difference between "here's footage of an accident at our store" and "this reckless person intentionally endangered our community" — the legal and practical implications are pretty different. Also did they actually name you directly or just show the plate? Genuinely asking because it matters a lot for whether you have a real claim or just a really unpleasant situation you have to ride out.

  • 8
    sharp-tern-421

    Not legal advice, but this is actually worth a real conversation with an attorney. Depending on your state or province, publicly identifying someone and adding defamatory commentary alongside footage can raise legitimate legal questions — especially if the caption went beyond just showing what happened and made factual claims that aren't proven. The fact that they tagged you by name after looking up your plate could matter too. Don't assume you have no recourse just because you're also a defendant in their property claim.

    • 10
      steady-neighbor598

      Really glad you posted an update — gives the rest of us some hope.

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    careful-sparrow-485

    From my time working on the insurance side, I'll tell you that businesses sometimes do this kind of thing thinking it strengthens their position or scares the other party into settling fast. What they don't always realize is that it can complicate their case too — especially if their insurer is trying to negotiate a clean settlement and now there's a potential counterclaim floating around. It changes the dynamics. I'd let your insurance company know about the posts if you haven't already.