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Someone hit my parked car and left a number but won't send insurance info — what do I do?

So this happened two days ago and I'm still fuming. I was at the gym for maybe 90 minutes and came back to find a dent and scrape along my rear quarter panel. Whoever did it actually left a handwritten note under my wiper with their name and a cell number, which honestly I thought was decent of them.

I texted right away, got a thumbs-up emoji back, and they said they'd "take care of it." That was 48 hours ago. Every time I follow up I get vague responses like "just been busy, sending it soon" — but nothing has actually arrived. No insurance card photo, no carrier name, nothing.

I went ahead and filed a claim with my own carrier just to protect myself and get it documented. They said I'd have to pay my deductible upfront if I go through them, which is really frustrating when this wasn't my fault at all.

I also filed a police report yesterday. The officer said since it was an unattended vehicle hit they could take the report but couldn't do much else.

My questions:

  • Is there anything I can actually do with just a phone number to track down their insurance?
  • Should I keep pushing my own carrier or wait this person out?
  • How long is too long to wait before I escalate somehow?

I really don't want my rates to go up over someone else's carelessness. Any advice from people who've been through this would be huge right now.

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  • 14
    sharp-mole-811

    Ugh, I went through almost the exact same thing last year. The person who hit my car in a parking lot kept stalling on the insurance info for almost a week. What finally worked for me was telling them in a text — in writing — that if I didn't have their full insurance info within 24 hours I'd be forwarding everything to my insurance and letting the carriers sort it out. Suddenly they responded within an hour. Sometimes people are hoping you'll just drop it.

    • 8
      tired-neighbor595

      Thanks for sharing. Hope things are getting a little easier for you.

  • 20
    patient-finch-940

    Don't let your own insurance company pressure you into rushing the claim through their side if the at-fault person is still reachable. Once your insurer pays out, they'll subrogate — meaning they chase the other person for reimbursement — but YOU still ate your deductible in the meantime and there's no guarantee you get it back quickly. Keep the paper trail going with the other person first.

  • 15
    quick-heron-440

    Former adjuster here. A phone number alone isn't enough to open a third-party claim directly with the other driver's insurer — you need the carrier name and policy number, or at minimum the carrier name so you can call them yourself.

    That said, if you can get their full legal name and license plate, some states allow you to request insurance info through the DMV after an accident. The police report can help with that process. Worth asking the officer or checking your state's DMV site.

    • 1
      tired-dreamer521

      Seconding this. The same approach worked for me last year.

  • 9
    candid-marten-050

    The police report is your best move right now honestly. Once that report exists with their name and plate on it, your own insurance company's subrogation team has something to work with. Also — keep every single text. Screenshot everything dated and timestamped. If this ever goes further, that paper trail showing they acknowledged fault and promised info is actually meaningful.

  • 5
    curious-heron-808

    Give them one more clear deadline in writing via text — something like "I need your insurance carrier and policy number by tomorrow at noon or I'm proceeding entirely through my own insurance and the police report." Then actually follow through. Stop waiting. People like this are counting on you being too polite to push.

  • 18
    genuine-mole-945

    Not legal advice, but I'll say this: the combination of a written note, text acknowledgment, and a police report is actually a decent foundation if this ever needed to go further. Small claims court is an option people don't think about enough for property damage situations like this. If you can prove who did it and they have no insurance or refuse to cooperate, that's a real avenue. Consult someone locally if it comes to that.

  • 20
    spry-dove-886

    This is so stressful, I'm sorry. The fact that they left a note at all is something — they know they did it. They're just hoping it quietly goes away. Don't let it. You did nothing wrong and you shouldn't be out a deductible because of them.

  • 13
    cool-sparrow-122

    Quick question — did you get their full name off the note or just a first name and number? And do you have the plate of any vehicle near yours on a security camera or anything? Gyms usually have parking lot cameras. Might be worth asking the front desk before that footage gets overwritten.