The Shoulder
The Shoulder
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cool-beaver-625

Red-light runner left me with a shattered hip and a possible lifelong limp. I'm so angry.

I don't even know why I'm posting this. I guess I just need somewhere to put it.

Three months ago I was riding in the back seat while my cousin drove us home from a family dinner. Completely normal night. Some guy blew through a red light at what the police estimated was well over 60 mph in a 35 zone — apparently he told officers he "didn't see it in time." Cool. Great.

The impact flipped us. I remember the sound and then I remember waking up staring at the ceiling of an ambulance.

My cousin fractured her collarbone and two fingers. The friend riding shotgun got a concussion and a badly sprained neck. Me? I got the worst of it because of where I was sitting when the other car connected with us.

Shattered acetabulum (that's the hip socket, for anyone lucky enough not to know that word yet). Fractured pelvis in two places. Lacerated spleen. Three broken ribs. I coded once in the ER — my mom still can't talk about that part without crying.

I've had two surgeries. I'm in PT three days a week. My orthopedic surgeon is being very careful with his words, but the phrase "permanent reduced mobility" has come up more than once. I'm 29. I was training for a half marathon.

The guy who hit us got a traffic citation. A citation.

I keep fantasizing about mailing him a bill for every copay I've had so far. Or maybe just a photo of my X-rays with a little sticky note that says "hope it was worth the 40 seconds you saved."

Has anyone else been through a pelvic or hip injury from an accident? How long did recovery actually take for you? And honestly — does the rage ever go away?

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    wise-vole-205

    The fact that you coded and are now doing PT three months out is genuinely remarkable — please give yourself credit for that even when it doesn't feel like progress. On the mobility question: pelvic and hip socket injuries have a really wide recovery range, and a lot depends on the surgical hardware, your PT consistency, and honestly some luck with how scar tissue forms. I'd push your care team to be specific about what functional goals look like at 6 months and 12 months, not just "reduced mobility" in the abstract. Vague language from doctors can feel scarier than a concrete plan.

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    hearty-dove-936

    I used to work claims. The thing that adjusters count on with serious-injury cases is that people are exhausted, broke, and emotionally worn down — so they accept the first real number that sounds big just to be done. With a surgery history, a documented ER coding event, and ongoing PT, your file is thick. That's actually leverage, even if it doesn't feel like it. The early offer — if one comes — will not reflect what this case is actually worth. I'm not saying drag it out forever, but don't let desperation set the timeline.

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    humble-marmot-460

    Not legal advice, but I'll say this: cases involving long-term or permanent orthopedic injury to someone your age are exactly the kind of thing that gets properly valued only when someone does a full life-care projection — meaning what your medical and quality-of-life costs look like over decades, not just today's bills. A citation for the other driver doesn't limit your civil options at all. Worth at least a free consultation with a PI attorney before you engage much further with insurance. Most won't charge unless they recover something.

    • 7
      swift-stoat-645

      I just want to say — you coded. You came back from that. And now you're doing PT and writing coherent, even darkly funny posts (the sticky note visual got me). You're allowed to be furious. That anger makes complete sense. I hope you have people around you in real life too, because this kind of trauma doesn't just live in your body.

  • 11
    swift-crow-680

    Please tell me you have not given a recorded statement to the at-fault driver's insurance yet. They are going to try to close this out for as little as possible, and they will absolutely use anything you say in those early calls against you when your full injury picture isn't even clear yet. Your medical costs alone sound enormous, and "permanent reduced mobility" as a 29-year-old changes the math on everything — lost wages, future care, quality of life. Don't let them rush you.

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    humble-swift-113

    I don't want to pile on with questions when you're clearly going through it, but — do you have your own auto insurance with uninsured/underinsured motorist coverage? And do you know what policy limits the at-fault driver is carrying? Those two things will shape your options a lot, especially if his coverage is low. Hoping for your sake he had decent limits.

  • 9
    wise-grouse-774

    The acetabulum thing — I'm so sorry. I fractured mine in a highway accident two years ago and nobody tells you how brutal that recovery is because it's not a "common" break. My honest timeline: I was on a walker for four months, crutches for two more after that, and PT for almost a year total. I'm mostly okay now but I still feel it on cold mornings and after long walks. You're 29 though, and that matters more than people realize. Younger bone heals differently. Don't let anyone give you a final prognosis this early.

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    tidy-crane-110

    Two things you need to do right now if you haven't: (1) keep a daily journal documenting your pain levels, what you can and can't do, emotional state, all of it — dated entries hold up later, and (2) get a copy of the full police report and make sure the officer's speed estimate is in there. That documentation is the foundation of everything else.

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      soft-spoken-sidewalk873

      Saving this whole thread. Really appreciate the honesty here.