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Rear-ended at highway speed while pregnant — do I even need a lawyer for this?

I still can't believe this is my life right now. Three weeks ago I was driving home from a routine errand, completely stopped in traffic, and got slammed from behind by someone who clearly wasn't paying attention. The impact pushed me into the car ahead of me. My car — which I owned outright, no loan, nothing — got hauled off on a flatbed. The other two cars drove away.

Oh, and I'm 16 weeks pregnant.

I've never dealt with anything like this before. The at-fault driver's insurance has already called me twice and they're being weirdly friendly, which honestly makes me more nervous, not less. They keep asking how I'm feeling and whether I've 'thought about what I'm looking for.' Like... I don't even know what that means yet? I'm still going to prenatal checkups to make sure everything is okay with the baby. My OB wants to keep monitoring me for a few more weeks before she's comfortable saying everything is fine.

Meanwhile I had to scramble to rent a car out of pocket because the reimbursement process is taking forever, and whatever they're eventually going to offer me for my car is definitely not going to cover replacing it with something comparable.

I guess my questions are:

  • Do I need an attorney, or can I handle this myself?
  • Should I be talking to their insurance at all right now?
  • Does the pregnancy complicate things legally?

I know everyone's situation is different but I'd really appreciate hearing from people who've been through something similar. I feel totally out of my depth here.

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  • 20
    hearty-owl-014

    A couple of practical things: First, don't give the other driver's insurance a recorded statement — you're generally not required to, and it almost never helps you. Second, start a folder (physical or digital) for everything: accident report, all medical receipts, rental car invoices, any correspondence from the insurance company. If you do end up working with an attorney, having all of that organized is a huge help. Third, most PI attorneys offer free consultations so there's really no downside to getting a professional read on your situation before you make any decisions.

    • 6
      quiet-parent307

      Appreciate the detailed write-up. Saving this for later.

  • 19
    brave-bison-907

    Please make sure every single appointment — your OB visits, any additional ultrasounds, any maternal-fetal medicine consults — is being documented and tied to the accident. Even if everything turns out fine with the pregnancy, those monitoring costs are real and they should be part of your claim. Stress in pregnancy is also not trivial. Keep a log of symptoms, sleep issues, anxiety, anything that has changed since the crash. Your medical records won't capture all of that automatically.

  • 18
    kind-marmot-431

    You're 16 weeks pregnant, your car is totaled, and the at-fault driver's insurance is already calling you. Get a lawyer. That's it. That's my advice. You can always choose not to use one, but you can't un-settle a case once you've signed a release.

  • 14
    quiet-wren-735

    I just want to say I'm really sorry you're going through this. Being pregnant and dealing with all this paperwork and phone calls and uncertainty is just so much. Please lean on people around you and don't try to white-knuckle through this alone. You deserve support — from people in your life AND from a professional who can help you navigate the legal stuff.

  • 11
    daring-wolf-188

    It sounds like you and the baby are okay so far, and that is genuinely the most important thing. The car stuff and the insurance stuff is stressful and it feels overwhelming right now, but it IS fixable — these things do get resolved. Take care of yourself first, document everything, and let the professionals handle the fight. You've got this.

    • 3
      honest-traveler676

      That lines up with what my adjuster told me too.

  • 10
    warm-elk-997

    Not legal advice, but speaking generally: pregnancy adds a layer of complexity that most adjusters are not going to factor into an early offer — things like the stress impact on a pregnancy, additional monitoring costs, and potential complications that haven't surfaced yet. Settling before your medical picture is complete (including for the baby) is almost always a mistake. Most PI attorneys work on contingency so there's no upfront cost to at least have a conversation. Worth knowing your options before you agree to anything.

    • 18
      kind-seal-369

      I used to work in claims. The early friendliness is a real strategy — it's called building rapport and it's designed to make you feel like you're dealing with a person who's on your side. They're not. Their job is to close your file for as little money as possible. The fact that they're calling YOU proactively this early tells me they know the liability is clear and they want to lock you in before you realize how much this might actually be worth. At minimum, stop answering their calls until you've at least consulted with someone.

  • 9
    swift-raven-721

    Stop talking to their adjuster. Seriously, just stop. Every single thing you say to them is being documented and can be used to minimize your payout later. That 'how are you feeling' small talk? They're fishing for you to say something like 'oh I'm doing okay' so they can argue your injuries weren't serious. You're pregnant and you were in a high-speed chain reaction crash — this is NOT a situation where you want to go it alone against a trained insurance professional.

  • 8
    bold-crow-559

    The 'weirdly friendly' adjuster thing jumped out at me immediately because I experienced the exact same thing after my accident. They were so nice and warm right up until they made me a lowball offer and then suddenly got really hard to reach. Please be careful. I wish I had talked to an attorney before I said anything else to them.