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Physically I'm 'okay' but mentally I'm a wreck after my accident — is this normal?

So about a week ago I got hit by an SUV that blew through a stop sign while I was going through an intersection with the right of way. The impact spun my car completely around. I walked away with some nasty soft tissue injuries and a bruised rib or two — nothing broken, nothing requiring surgery. Doctors cleared me and basically sent me home.

Here's the thing though. My body is healing fine but my brain is not cooperating. Every time I get in a car — even as a passenger — my chest tightens up and I feel like something terrible is about to happen again. I keep replaying the moment of impact over and over when I'm trying to fall asleep. I'll just be sitting there eating lunch and suddenly I'm back in that intersection hearing the crunch of metal.

I also feel this weird heavy fog, like I'm watching my own life through a window. My appetite is off. I've been exhausted even though I'm not doing much physically. A couple times I just started crying for no clear reason.

I already deal with some generalized anxiety, so I genuinely can't tell if this is just my baseline getting worse or if something else is going on.

Has anyone else gone through this after a crash where you were "mostly fine" physically? How long did it take before you felt like yourself again? Did you see someone — like a therapist or counselor — and did it actually help? I just want to feel normal again and I hate that a random Tuesday has apparently rewired my whole nervous system.

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    genuine-elk-461

    Yes, everything you're describing — I lived it after my accident two years ago. The physical stuff almost felt easier to deal with because at least you could point to it. The mental replay, the fog, the crying out of nowhere — that hit me way harder and lasted longer than the bruises did. It does get better, but it took me longer than I expected. Be patient with yourself, seriously.

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      curious-rider558

      Really glad you posted an update — gives the rest of us some hope.

  • 18
    bright-elk-136

    I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but the fact that you're aware of what's happening and you're already asking for help is actually a really good sign. A lot of people white-knuckle through this and wonder why they're still struggling a year later. You're already ahead of the curve just by naming it.

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    humble-dove-377

    Whatever you do, don't let the other driver's insurance company rush you into a settlement while you're still in this fog. They love to get signatures when you're overwhelmed and just want everything to be over. Your mental health impacts are real damages and they deserve to be part of any claim. Don't let anyone minimize that.

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      tired-commuter478

      That lines up with what my adjuster told me too.

  • 13
    patient-vole-418

    Ugh, I'm so sorry. The fact that you were totally blindsided — no warning, no chance to brace yourself — that has to make it so much harder to shake. Sending you a lot of support. Please don't isolate yourself too much right now.

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    tidy-finch-121

    What you're describing sounds a lot like an acute stress response, which is incredibly common after traumatic events — even when the physical injuries are relatively minor. Your nervous system just went through something it perceived as life-threatening, and it doesn't care that you got a clean CT scan. The intrusive replaying, the hypervigilance in the car, the emotional numbness, the fatigue — those are all your brain trying to process what happened. It doesn't mean something is "wrong" with you. That said, if it's still this intense a few weeks from now, please talk to someone. Trauma-focused therapy (like EMDR or CBT) can genuinely move the needle.

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      warm-wren-739

      Not legal advice, but I'll say this — what you're experiencing has a name in personal injury cases: psychological or emotional damages. Things like anxiety, sleep disruption, and trauma responses from an accident are absolutely compensable in many claims. Keep a journal, even just a few sentences a day, describing how you're feeling mentally and how it's affecting your daily life. That kind of documentation matters more than people realize. Talk to someone who handles injury claims before you settle anything.

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      clear-lynx-842

      Go see a therapist. I know that sounds annoyingly simple but seriously — don't wait on that. A lot of people assume they'll just "get over it" and then six months later they're still flinching at every yellow light. Get ahead of it now while it's fresh. Your GP can usually refer you, or you can often self-refer if your insurance allows it.

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    cool-swift-917

    Have you actually talked to your doctor about the mental symptoms specifically, or just the physical ones? I ask because sometimes things like concussion can cause exactly what you're describing — fog, mood changes, fatigue — and can be missed if no one's really looking for it. Worth bringing up explicitly at your next appointment, not just assuming it's purely psychological.