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Passenger in car when driver got a DUI — now what happens to MY injury claim?

This whole situation has me so stressed I don't even know where to start.

I was a passenger in a friend's car last month. We were heading home from a late dinner and I honestly had no idea he'd been drinking as much as he had. He ran a red light and we got T-boned by another car. I ended up with a fractured wrist and some pretty bad whiplash — still in a brace and doing PT twice a week.

Here's where it gets complicated: my friend (the driver) got arrested at the scene and was charged with DUI. He had a prior from a few years back too, so I'm guessing things are going to get more serious for him legally.

I feel awful about his situation, I really do — he's one of my oldest friends. But I also have a stack of medical bills growing by the week, I missed almost three weeks of work, and my wrist might need surgery depending on how it heals.

I have so many questions I don't even know what to ask first:

  • Does his DUI actually help my injury claim in some way, or does it complicate things?
  • Do I file against HIS insurance, the other driver's insurance, or both?
  • Will his insurance company even try to cover me if he was drunk and at fault?
  • Should I be talking to anyone before his criminal case is settled?

I'm not trying to burn my friend's life down, but I also can't just eat these bills. Has anyone been through something like this? I feel like I'm navigating a minefield.

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  • 16
    plain-beaver-563

    I was in almost this exact situation a couple years ago — passenger in a friend's car, friend was at fault, and yeah it feels horrible to 'go after' someone you care about. But here's what I learned: you're not really suing your friend, you're making a claim against their insurance policy. That's literally what it exists for. Once I reframed it that way, I felt a lot less guilty about it.

    • 9
      brave-bison-051

      Not legal advice, but generally speaking — a DUI conviction or even a charge can actually strengthen a passenger's personal injury claim because it's strong evidence of negligence. You'd likely be looking at a claim against your friend's liability coverage first, and potentially the other driver's coverage too depending on how fault shakes out. Don't wait too long; statutes of limitations vary by state. Talk to a PI attorney sooner rather than later, most do free consults.

    • 16
      cool-marmot-744

      A couple practical things: start keeping a folder (physical or digital) with every single medical bill, every EOB from your health insurance, your pay stubs showing missed work, and any notes from your doctors. Also write down everything you remember about the accident while it's still fresh — what you saw, what you felt, what was said at the scene. That documentation matters a lot later in the process, especially if there's any dispute about what happened.

    • 12
      bright-hare-506

      Stop overthinking the friendship angle and get a PI lawyer on the phone this week. Free consultation, no commitment. You need someone to tell you exactly where you stand before you accidentally say something to an insurance adjuster that hurts your claim. That's step one. Everything else comes after.

    • 0
      quiet-traveler923

      This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you.

  • 10
    clear-dove-682

    Watch out — your friend's insurance company is going to be looking for ANY reason to limit what they pay you. They might be extra motivated to lowball or delay because of the DUI complicating their exposure. Don't give them a recorded statement without understanding your rights first. They are not your friend, even if your friend is your friend, if that makes sense.

    • 9
      brave-grouse-872

      Did the other driver get cited for anything? You said your friend ran the red but I'm wondering if there's any shared fault situation here. Also — do you know what your friend's liability coverage limits are? That changes the whole picture of what you might actually be able to recover.

    • 5
      grounded-sidewalk835

      Adding this: keep copies of every email. It mattered for me.

  • 9
    humble-grouse-722

    Worked in auto claims for years. When there's a DUI involved, the insurer is usually sweating their liability limits hard because juries and arbitrators tend to be less sympathetic to the drunk driver — which ironically can be good for you as the injured passenger. That said, if your friend's policy limits are low, you may need to look at whether you have underinsured motorist coverage on your own auto policy. Even if you weren't driving, your own policy might cover the gap. Seriously, check that.

    • 10
      weary-driver299

      That lines up with what my adjuster told me too.

  • 18
    clear-vole-286

    Please don't rush your recovery timeline for the sake of the claim — I know it's tempting to just push through and get back to normal, but wrist fractures that 'might need surgery' really need to be fully evaluated before you settle anything. If you settle before knowing the full picture on that surgery, you could be left covering those costs yourself. Make sure your doctors are documenting everything thoroughly.

    • 5
      hopeful-dreamer821

      How long did it end up taking in your case?

  • 11
    steady-swift-633

    This sounds so hard. You're hurt, you're stressed about money, AND you're worried about your friend. That's a lot to carry at once. Please just focus on getting yourself taken care of — physically and financially. A real friend wouldn't want you drowning in medical debt because of something they did.