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Minor fender tap — I pulled into a parking lot instead of stopping right away. Hit and run??

Okay so I'm lowkey spiraling about this and need some outside perspective.

I was merging onto a surface road from a shopping center exit and another car kind of drifted into my path. Our bumpers barely kissed — like honestly I wasn't even sure contact was made at first. Super low speed, maybe 5 mph max.

Here's the thing: I didn't stop right there because it happened right at an intersection and I didn't want to block traffic. I signaled, pulled into the gas station about half a block up, and got out to look at my car. By the time I walked back toward the road, the other driver had already driven off. Like fully gone. Didn't stop, didn't pull over, nothing.

I waited around for like ten minutes thinking they might come back. They didn't. There was no damage I could see on my car, and from what I could tell their bumper looked fine too.

But now I'm sitting here wondering — did I just commit a hit and run by not stopping at the exact spot? I moved maybe 150 feet to get out of the intersection. I fully intended to exchange info. The other driver left before I could.

I didn't call the police because it seemed like nothing happened and they bailed anyway. Should I have? Is it too late to file a report? Could I be in any legal trouble here if that person decides to come forward later and claim I fled?

I feel sick about this even though I feel like I did the right thing by moving to a safe spot. Anyone been in something similar?

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  • 16
    gentle-dove-784

    I had something almost identical happen to me last year. Tiny contact at a merge, I pulled forward into a safer spot, the other person was already gone by the time I got out. I was freaking out too. I ended up filing a report with the non-emergency line just to have it on record that I tried to do the right thing. The officer I spoke to said moving to a safe location before stopping is generally fine — you're not required to stop in the middle of an active intersection.

    • 17
      mellow-finch-404

      File a non-emergency police report today. Not tomorrow, today. Even if nothing comes of it, you want documentation that you attempted to address the situation. If that other driver suddenly claims you fled and files something, your report showing you called in the same day looks a whole lot better than nothing.

  • 11
    patient-bison-081

    Not legal advice, but generally speaking, hit and run laws in most states require drivers to stop and exchange information — and pulling into a safe nearby location rather than the exact point of contact is typically acceptable. The real exposure comes from leaving the area entirely without making any effort to connect with the other party. You tried, they left. That matters. Still, document everything now — photos of your car, the time and location, any witnesses. And seriously consider that non-emergency report. Not a lawyer for you specifically, just general context.

  • 16
    humble-hare-960

    Do NOT call your insurance company to 'just ask a hypothetical' about this. The second you mention an incident, it's potentially on record and could be used against you. Talk to your own legal counsel first if you're worried about exposure.

    • 4
      level-co-pilot448

      This thread is gold. Thanks everyone.

  • 12
    mellow-mole-225

    The definition of hit and run varies by state but usually hinges on intent to flee and failure to provide contact information. The fact that the other driver LEFT before you could exchange anything is actually really important. If you file a report now, you're essentially creating a paper trail that shows you had no intent to hide anything. Keep a written timeline of exactly what happened — time, location, what the contact felt like, what you did after — while it's fresh.

  • 8
    clear-grouse-317

    Ugh, this sounds so stressful and it honestly sounds like you did the responsible thing. You pulled over safely, you waited, THEY left. Please try not to spiral too much — it really does sound like you acted in good faith.

  • 16
    keen-dove-116

    Few questions: Did anyone else witness this at the intersection? Any businesses nearby with cameras that might have caught it? Also — are you sure there was actual contact and not just a close call? Sometimes the sound of tires or a pothole can feel like a bump. I'd want to be really certain contact happened before filing anything that puts this on record unnecessarily.

    • 3
      soft-spoken-co-pilot270

      Exactly my experience. Persistence paid off in the end.

    • 0
      tired-neighbor226

      This is really helpful — thank you for posting it.

  • 21
    patient-stoat-674

    From my time handling claims, I can tell you that if the other driver later files a claim and footage or a witness surfaces, the thing that will matter most is your behavior after the contact. Did you brake? Did you pull over nearby? Did you wait? Did you attempt to locate the other party? Sounds like you did all of that. An adjuster is going to look at that pattern of behavior to assess whether there was intent to flee. You're in a much better position than you think — but get that police report filed.