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I left an accident scene by accident and turned myself in — what happens now?

I'm posting this because I genuinely have nowhere else to put it and I feel sick about the whole thing.

A few nights ago I rear-ended someone at a stoplight. It wasn't a big collision — I was distracted, totally my fault, I know that. The other driver got out and seemed okay, and honestly their car looked fine. Mine had some visible damage. We pulled over and I started looking for my registration in the glove box.

I couldn't find anything. I panicked and told the other driver I needed to grab my paperwork from my house around the corner — and then I just... drove away. I don't even fully understand why. Adrenaline, embarrassment, I honestly don't know.

About ten minutes later sitting in my driveway I realized what I'd just done. Left the scene. I didn't sleep. I spent the whole night going back and forth about what to do.

This morning I drove to the police station and told them everything. I brought my insurance card and license. The officer took my statement and said someone had already filed a report. He told me there may be a charge but didn't give me specifics. I signed some paperwork and came home.

I feel like I did the right thing by going back but I'm terrified of what comes next — for my license, my insurance, potentially court. The other driver deserves to be made whole and I want that. I just don't know what the process looks like from here.

Has anyone been through something like this? Did turning yourself in actually help? I'm not looking for judgment, I already feel terrible enough.

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    spry-badger-107

    I wasn't the one who left, but I was the other driver in a hit-and-run once. The person came back about 20 minutes later and honestly it changed everything — the cops were way more cooperative, the insurance stuff got resolved, and I didn't push for anything beyond repairs. Turning yourself in was genuinely the right call and I think it matters more than people realize.

    • 8
      weary-passenger981

      Seconding this. The same approach worked for me last year.

  • 11
    genuine-swan-024

    A few practical things worth knowing: get a copy of the police report as soon as it's available — you're entitled to it and you'll want to know exactly what's in it before anything else happens. Also document everything from your own memory right now while it's fresh: time, location, what was said, what the damage looked like. If this goes anywhere legally, that record will matter. And yes, talking to an attorney sooner rather than later is smart even if nothing formal has happened yet.

    • 7
      patient-survivor861

      This is really helpful — thank you for posting it.

    • 2
      plainspoken-sidewalk688

      This thread is gold. Thanks everyone.

  • 10
    keen-tern-510

    Not legal advice, but generally speaking — voluntarily coming forward before being charged is something courts and prosecutors do tend to consider. It doesn't erase the situation but it's meaningfully different from being tracked down. If any kind of citation or charge does come, even a consultation with a traffic or criminal defense attorney would be worth it just to understand your options. Many do free first calls.

  • 9
    genuine-fox-713

    Just a heads up: be really careful about how much you say to your own insurance company right now. I know it sounds counterintuitive but adjusters will use your own words against you when they're calculating liability or deciding whether to cover you. Stick to the basic facts and don't editorialize or apologize in writing.

  • 7
    daring-otter-821

    From my time on the claims side — the fact that you self-reported to police actually helps your insurance company too. It gives them a cleaner paper trail. The thing that blows claims up is when the insured tries to hide what happened and the story unravels later. You avoided that. Your rates will probably take a hit regardless, but you're in a much better position than if they'd had to sort this out without your cooperation.

    • 5
      careful-survivor277

      Wish I had seen this a month ago — would have saved me a lot of stress.

  • 7
    humble-finch-792

    Okay real talk: you did the scary thing and went in. That's done. Now stop replaying it and focus on what's next. Get the police report. Notify your insurance. Talk to a lawyer before anything escalates. One step at a time — you can't fix the past but you can handle what's in front of you.

    • 4
      restless-overpass458

      Following up on this — any update on how it turned out?

    • 7
      steady-traveler409

      Did you have to escalate, or did they come around after the first ask?

  • 6
    bright-beaver-555

    Please take care of yourself through this. The stress and guilt you're describing is real and it affects your body. Loss of sleep, constant anxiety — that stuff compounds. Whatever happens legally or with insurance, make sure you're eating and talking to someone you trust. This is a hard situation but you're handling it.

    • 5
      restless-sidewalk809

      Exactly my experience. Persistence paid off in the end.

  • 6
    wise-tern-754

    I just want to say — the fact that you're this torn up about it says a lot about who you are. People make panicked decisions in stressful moments. You didn't double down or pretend it didn't happen. You went back and told the truth. That counts for something.

    • 4
      patient-dreamer598

      Same boat here. Did anyone mention a deadline to watch out for?