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Guy threatening to sue me personally after insurance already rejected his claim — what now?

I'm honestly losing sleep over this and could really use some perspective from people who've been through something similar.

About six weeks ago I was leaving a crowded parking garage downtown and this guy starts yelling that I sideswiped his car pulling out. I genuinely didn't feel any impact — nothing. I stopped immediately, we both walked around both vehicles, and my car had zero marks on it. His had what looked like old scuffs and a fresh scrape, but here's the thing: the paint transfer on his car was white. My car is dark green. Doesn't add up.

We exchanged info anyway and I figured insurance would sort it out. My carrier investigated and denied his claim — they said the evidence didn't support that my vehicle caused the damage. I thought that was the end of it.

Now this guy texts me almost every day demanding I pay him directly for the repairs. He's saying if I don't pay up he'll take me to small claims court. The number he's throwing out seems completely pulled from thin air — definitely not a real repair estimate from any shop.

My insurance knows about the harassment texts but basically told me the claim is closed on their end. I'm not sure if I should:

  • Keep ignoring him
  • Send a written response telling him to stop contacting me
  • Loop in a lawyer just in case
  • Wait and see if he actually files anything

Has anyone dealt with someone threatening to sue after insurance already denied their claim? Does he actually have a shot at winning in small claims with zero matching evidence? I feel like I'm being shaken down but I also don't want to ignore something I shouldn't.

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  • 17
    quick-grouse-580

    Almost the exact same thing happened to me two years ago. Guy insisted I clipped his bumper in a parking lot, insurance looked at everything and denied him, then he spent two months texting me threats. He never actually filed. A lot of these people are just hoping you panic and pay to make it go away. Don't pay a cent — that can actually look like an admission.

  • 9
    silent-sparrow-486

    The fact that your carrier denied the claim is actually meaningful here — they investigated and didn't find you liable. What I'd watch out for is this: if he does file in small claims, your insurance may or may not show up to defend you depending on your policy language. Call your insurer and ask them directly whether they'll provide defense if he files suit. Get that answer in writing if you can. Don't just assume they've got your back forever because they denied his claim.

  • 16
    candid-bison-487

    Not legal advice, but from a practical standpoint — if he files in small claims, the burden is on him to prove you caused the damage. Mismatched paint transfer is actually pretty compelling. Save every single text he's sent you, screenshot everything with timestamps, and don't respond to him in a way that could be taken out of context. If he does file, it might be worth a one-hour consult with a PI attorney just to know what to expect walking in. Most will do a free call.

    • 7
      mellow-crane-765

      A few practical things to do right now regardless of what he does next: (1) Write down everything you remember about the incident in as much detail as possible and date the document — memory fades fast. (2) If there were any security cameras in that garage, contact the property manager now and ask them to preserve the footage. Most systems overwrite in 30–60 days. (3) Keep a log of every harassing message with the date and time. That pattern of contact could matter later.

    • 3
      level-co-pilot106

      Adding this: keep copies of every email. It mattered for me.

  • 22
    cool-raven-953

    I used to handle exactly these kinds of disputed contact claims. When we denied it, it was because the physical evidence didn't support the story — paint color mismatch is one of the clearest reasons we'd close a file. He can absolutely still sue you, but winning is a different story. Small claims judges see opportunistic claims all the time and they do look at the evidence. What he cannot do is force you to pay before a court orders it.

  • 17
    tidy-wren-083

    Stop texting back and forth with him. Seriously. Every response you send is another thing he can screenshot and twist. If you haven't already, send him one calm, short message saying all further communication should go through your insurance carrier. Then block him or mute him and let him make his next move.

  • 6
    cool-fox-511

    Quick question — did you take photos of both cars at the scene right after it happened? And did your insurance company do an actual physical inspection or just go off statements? I'm not doubting you, but if this goes to small claims the more documentation you have on your side the better. "I didn't feel an impact" is hard to argue on its own.

    • 4
      honest-survivor617

      Same boat here. Did anyone mention a deadline to watch out for?

  • 17
    spry-badger-162

    This sounds so stressful, I'm sorry you're dealing with it. The daily texts alone would have me on edge. Whatever you do, please don't let him pressure you into paying something you don't owe just to get him to stop — that never actually ends it, and like someone else said it can look bad legally.

  • 15
    patient-grouse-340

    I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but the insurance denial is genuinely in your favor. That's a professional investigation that came down on your side. If he actually files in small claims you'll walk in with that already behind you — that's not nothing.