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Got served with a lawsuit for a fender-bender I caused last year — should I be panicking?

I honestly don't even know where to start with this. About 14 months ago I tapped someone's bumper in a parking lot exit — we were both barely moving, maybe jogging pace. The other driver got out, looked at her car, and seemed totally unbothered. No airbags, no broken glass, her bumper had a small scuff. She said she felt fine and specifically asked me NOT to call the police because she said it wasn't worth it. We took photos, swapped insurance cards, and went our separate ways.

Fast forward to last week. I got a certified letter from an attorney's office saying the other driver is suing me for an amount that is genuinely life-altering — way more than I ever imagined anyone would demand from a low-speed parking lot bump. My heart dropped.

Here's what I know so far:

  • My auto insurance has already assigned a defense attorney to handle it on my behalf
  • The claim amount is above my policy limits, which terrifies me
  • I own almost nothing — I rent, have a modest car, and take home around $48k a year

I haven't been able to sleep. My assigned attorney told me not to worry too much and that these opening numbers are often inflated, but I can't help it. A few questions eating me alive:

1. Can they actually come after my wages or bank account if the judgment exceeds my policy limits? 2. Should I be talking to a separate personal attorney on top of the one my insurance assigned? 3. Has anyone else been through something like this where the demand seemed completely out of proportion to what happened?

I'm not a reckless person. I made a mistake and I own that — but this feels surreal. Any perspective from people who've been through the legal side of this would mean a lot right now.

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  • 8
    bright-otter-340

    I was on the other side of this kind of situation — someone tapped my car and I had lingering neck issues — but I can tell you the opening demand number is almost never what anything settles for. My attorney explained it as a negotiating starting point. Your insurance company has a strong incentive to settle within your policy limits if they can, because if they don't try hard enough, they can actually face exposure too. Try to breathe. I know that sounds impossible right now.

  • 9
    spry-owl-754

    The one thing I'd really push on: the attorney your insurance assigned works for the insurance company, not you personally. They're looking out for the insurer's interests first. If the claim is above your policy limits, your personal financial exposure is real and that attorney may not be fighting as hard for YOU as they would for a private client. Seriously consider at least a free consult with your own independent PI defense lawyer.

    • 12
      daring-bison-002

      I just want to say — I'm so sorry you're going through this. The stress of something like this hanging over you is genuinely awful, and it makes sense that you can't sleep. Please make sure you're talking to someone, even just a friend or a counselor. The legal stuff will grind through its process, but you need to take care of yourself through it too. You're not a bad person for making a small driving mistake.

    • 5
      tired-neighbor691

      Wish I had seen this a month ago — would have saved me a lot of stress.

  • 12
    humble-bison-780

    Not legal advice, but this is worth knowing: when a claim exceeds policy limits, most states have rules about what your insurer is obligated to do — including making reasonable settlement efforts. If they fail to do that and a judgment comes in over your limits, the insurer can sometimes be held responsible for the excess. Ask your assigned attorney directly: 'What happens to me personally if this goes over my policy limits?' Their answer will tell you a lot. Again, not legal advice — just a direction worth exploring.

    • 9
      weary-dreamer909

      Going through something similar right now. Did following up actually move the needle for you?

  • 19
    calm-swift-846

    Worked claims for years. Huge opening demands on low-speed impacts are extremely common, especially when an attorney gets involved. They're often fishing to see if your carrier will panic and overpay. That said, don't be passive — stay in close contact with your assigned counsel, document everything you remember about that day (weather, speed, what she said, any photos you took), and ask for updates regularly. Adjusters respond better to claimants who stay engaged rather than disappearing.

    • 4
      quiet-commuter837

      Solid advice. Getting it in writing is the part most people skip.

    • 5
      thankful-overpass262

      Following up on this — any update on how it turned out?

  • 12
    careful-otter-385

    A few practical things: First, do NOT reach out to the other driver or her attorney directly — ever. Everything goes through your insurance's attorney from this point. Second, dig out every piece of paper from that day — your photos, the insurance exchange, any texts if you communicated after. Third, if your state allows wage garnishment for civil judgments, there are usually exemptions for lower income levels. A free consultation with a local attorney could clarify what's actually at risk for someone in your financial situation.

  • 13
    humble-kestrel-458

    Just want to gently mention — whiplash and soft tissue injuries from even very low-speed collisions can be genuinely painful and show up days or weeks later on imaging. I'm not saying her claim is valid, but it's worth understanding that 'she looked fine at the scene' doesn't always tell the whole story medically. That context might help you understand why these lawsuits happen, even if the dollar amount still seems wildly inflated.

    • 0
      weathered-mile-marker709

      Thank you both, this gave me the push I needed to make the call.

  • 7
    genuine-vole-262

    Do not file bankruptcy over this — not yet, not even close. You're way ahead of yourself. Most of these cases settle. Your insurance company doesn't want a judgment over policy limits any more than you do. Stay off social media entirely, keep a written log of every conversation with your attorney, and stop Googling worst-case scenarios at 2am. One step at a time.

    • 0
      tired-traveler419

      This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you.

  • 5
    hearty-marmot-292

    Quick question: did your insurance company actually confirm in writing that they're providing a defense? And do you know the exact policy limits on your liability coverage? Those two numbers matter a lot here. Also — was there any follow-up contact from the other driver or her attorney between the accident and this lawsuit? Sometimes there's a paper trail that affects how these things play out.