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Got badly hurt at 14 in a crash, now 23 and old symptoms are creeping back. Terrified.

This is kind of hard to write out but I need to talk to people who might actually get it.

When I was 14 I was in the back seat when a drunk driver blew through a stop sign and t-boned us. I won't list everything that happened but the short version is: broken pelvis in multiple spots, a dislocated hip, and a serious injury to my urethra — the tube that carries urine out of your body. It got severed in the impact.

I was in and out of consciousness for the first few days. I was on so many medications I barely remember the first few weeks in the hospital. What I do remember is the pain. The catheter. The bladder spasms. Months of just lying there, completely dependent on everyone around me for everything. You don't appreciate being able to walk to the bathroom by yourself until you literally can't.

After about seven months of recovery they were able to surgically reconstruct the urethra — no grafts needed, they just reconnected it — and honestly the years after that were fine. I thought I was past it.

Now I'm 23 and in the last few weeks I've noticed things getting weird again. Weak stream, feeling like I can't fully empty, occasional leaking. I have a urology appointment coming up but I'm just... spiraling waiting for it.

I'm not looking for a diagnosis obviously. I just want to know if anyone else has dealt with long-term complications from crash injuries that seemed healed, and then weren't. Or really anything. I feel really alone with this right now.

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    spry-newt-458

    I didn't have the same injury but I had a spinal compression from a rear-end collision when I was 16 that I thought was "fixed" after surgery. At 24 I started having nerve pain and weakness again and my doctors said scar tissue had slowly built up over the years. Old trauma injuries can absolutely resurface — your body changes, scar tissue shifts, things that were compensating stop working as well. You're not imagining it and you're not being dramatic. I'm really glad you have that appointment already lined up.

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      hopeful-dreamer201

      This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you.

  • 19
    mellow-finch-225

    The symptoms you're describing — reduced stream, incomplete emptying, some loss of control — are actually a pretty classic cluster that urologists see with reconstructed urethras years down the line. Scar tissue can slowly narrow the passage over time; it's called a stricture. The good news is that if that's what it is, there are minimally invasive ways to address it that are nothing like what you went through as a kid. Please don't cancel that appointment out of fear. What you're noticing is your body asking for attention, not necessarily announcing a catastrophe.

    • 10
      kind-survivor890

      Really glad you posted an update — gives the rest of us some hope.

  • 13
    candid-raven-592

    I just want to say — what you went through at 14 sounds absolutely brutal and I have so much respect for how you're handling this. The fact that you made that appointment instead of just ignoring it takes guts, especially when the last time all this happened it turned your whole life upside down. Rooting hard for you.

  • 17
    candid-kestrel-780

    Not legal advice at all, but one thing worth knowing: if these new symptoms are directly connected to the original crash injury — and a doctor documents that link — it could potentially be relevant to any existing settlement or case depending on how it was structured. Some settlements account for future complications, some don't. If you were a minor at the time, there may also be specific rules about how your case was resolved. Might be worth a quick conversation with a PI attorney just to understand where you stand. Again, not advice, just something to be aware of.

    • 0
      patient-optimist584

      This is really helpful — thank you for posting it.

  • 10
    careful-vole-518

    If there's any chance this connects back to the original accident and you ever have to deal with insurance again — keep a symptom journal starting right now. Dates, descriptions, how it affects your daily life. Insurance companies love to argue that new symptoms are unrelated or pre-existing. Your own contemporaneous notes are one of the best things you can have.

    • 9
      quiet-rider437

      Appreciate the detailed write-up. Saving this for later.

  • 10
    keen-swan-503

    Go to the appointment. Write down every symptom before you get there so you don't forget anything in the room. Ask the urologist specifically about stricture and whether imaging makes sense. Don't let them brush you off with "let's just watch it" if your gut says something is wrong. You know your body better than anyone.

    • 9
      careful-driver625

      Wish I had seen this a month ago — would have saved me a lot of stress.

  • 17
    cool-marten-378

    You caught this early. You're 23, you're paying attention to your body, you already have an appointment. That's genuinely the best possible position to be in. Medicine has come a long way even in the nine years since your original surgery — the options available now are better than they were then. Try to hold onto that a little.

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    warm-marmot-631

    Has anything else changed recently — hydration, diet, stress levels, any new medications? I'm not dismissing what you're saying at all, I just think it's worth going into that appointment with as full a picture as possible, including ruling out things that might be coincidental rather than crash-related. Either way your urologist needs to know the full history from the accident.

    • 4
      grounded-mile-marker772

      Took me three tries but they finally budged. Don't give up.