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First accident ever, other driver was aggressive and now I'm scared I messed everything up

I've never been in an accident before this week and honestly I'm a wreck about the whole thing. A guy coming from the far outside lane just swung hard into my lane to make a turn — no signal, no warning — and clipped the whole front corner of my car. I had the right of way, full stop.

What happened after was just... awful. He got out of his car immediately yelling, blaming me, totally in my face. I was shaking and just wanted to get away from him. So I did the bare minimum — snapped some photos of the damage, grabbed his insurance info — and I left. No police report. Didn't canvas for witnesses. Didn't photograph the intersection or the lane markings that would've shown exactly what happened.

I know. I know. In the moment I just froze and went into survival mode.

Now I'm sitting here realizing this guy is absolutely going to say it was my fault, and I have almost nothing to back myself up except my word and a few damage photos. I filed a claim with his insurance but haven't heard much yet.

Things I'm wondering:

  • Is it too late to go back to the intersection and photograph the lane markings?
  • Could there be traffic or business cameras nearby that caught it?
  • Should I get a lawyer even if my car damage isn't catastrophic?
  • How do I handle it if his insurance calls me wanting a recorded statement?

Any advice from people who've been through something like this would mean a lot right now. I feel so stupid even though I know I didn't do anything wrong behind the wheel.

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  • 20
    silent-crow-503

    I went through almost this exact situation two years ago — first accident, aggressive other driver, left the scene without a police report because I just wanted to get away. Honestly the best thing I did was go back to that intersection the very next morning. Took photos of every lane marking, every sign, even the sight lines. It's not too late for that. Also walk the nearby storefronts — I found a sandwich shop that had an exterior camera pointed right at the street and they handed over the footage once I asked nicely. That footage ended up being really important.

    • 8
      careful-passenger633

      Solid advice. Getting it in writing is the part most people skip.

  • 18
    clever-wolf-106

    Do NOT give his insurance company a recorded statement without talking to a lawyer first. I can't stress this enough. They're going to call you sounding friendly and just wanting to "get your side of things" — but everything you say can and will be used to reduce or deny your claim. You're not legally required to give them a recorded statement. Just say you'll get back to them.

  • 20
    mellow-fox-917

    Spent years on the inside of claims departments. A few things: first, go file a police report NOW if your jurisdiction still allows a late report — many do within a few days or even a week. Second, the lane configuration you're describing (a shared straight/turn lane vs. a dedicated turn lane) is actually pretty well-documented in most city traffic engineering records. Your attorney or even you personally can request those. It objectively shows who had the legal right to be where. That kind of documentation hits different than just dueling stories.

    • 9
      spry-finch-423

      You didn't mess up — you were scared and in shock and you got yourself away from someone who was screaming at you. That was the right call for your safety. Everything else is fixable. Please don't beat yourself up.

    • 6
      honest-parent947

      Wish I had seen this a month ago — would have saved me a lot of stress.

    • 7
      thankful-mile-marker344

      Adding this: keep copies of every email. It mattered for me.

  • 12
    spry-hare-552

    Not legal advice, but I'll say this: the absence of a police report hurts less than people think if you have other corroborating evidence. Lane geometry, camera footage, even cell tower or dashcam data from other nearby vehicles can reconstruct what happened. The recorded-statement concern others raised is real — you have no obligation to give one to the adverse party's insurer. Talking to a PI attorney for a free consult costs you nothing and gives you a much clearer picture of where you stand.

  • 12
    curious-swift-582

    Please make sure you've actually seen a doctor, even if you feel okay right now. Adrenaline is wild — it masks pain for hours or sometimes days. Whiplash and soft-tissue stuff especially doesn't always show up until 48-72 hours later. If you wait too long to get checked out, insurers will use that gap to argue your injuries weren't related to the accident. Go get documented today if you haven't already.

  • 17
    clear-wren-088

    Three immediate action items: (1) Go back to that intersection today and photograph everything — lane lines, turn arrows, signage, all of it. (2) Walk into every business within eyeshot and ask if they have exterior cameras and will preserve the footage. Footage overwrites fast. (3) Call your own insurance and report it even if you're pursuing his. Your own carrier works for you. Do all three before you do anything else.

  • 20
    plain-crane-121

    Quick question — did you at least get a photo of his insurance card and license plate? And do you know if your car has any kind of onboard event data or if any other cars nearby might have had dashcams? I'm not doubting you, just thinking about what you might actually have to work with before assuming the worst.