The Shoulder
The Shoulder
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Car accidentscool-wren-015

Felt totally fine after my crash — now a week later I can barely get out of bed??

I'm honestly so frustrated and confused right now and just need to hear if anyone else has been through this.

I got rear-ended at a stoplight about a week ago. Hit wasn't even that dramatic looking — the other car wasn't going highway speed or anything. At the scene I walked around, talked to the cops, exchanged info, felt a little shaky but genuinely thought I was fine. Didn't even consider going to urgent care.

Fast forward to yesterday and I wake up and my shoulders and upper back feel like I slept on concrete for a month. Turning my head to check my blind spot while driving is genuinely painful. I've also had this dull headache that won't quit for the last four days that I kept brushing off as stress.

Now I'm spiraling a little because:

1. I already texted the other driver's insurance to confirm the claim and mentioned I was "doing okay" because at the time I thought I was 2. I waited a week to see a doctor so now I'm worried they'll say the injuries aren't related to the crash 3. I have no idea if I should be talking to anyone or just staying quiet

Is this delayed pain thing actually common or am I some kind of outlier? And did I screw myself by saying I was okay that first day? I genuinely wasn't lying — I really did feel fine. The idea that a casual text could tank my whole claim makes me feel sick.

Any advice or shared experience would mean a lot right now.

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  • 8
    gentle-badger-961

    You are absolutely not an outlier — this happened to me almost exactly. Walked away from a side-swipe thinking I just had some nerves, then by day four I couldn't lift my arm above my shoulder. The delayed onset thing is real and it's way more common than people think. Don't beat yourself up for saying you were okay — you believed it when you said it.

    • 4
      patient-rider642

      That lines up with what my adjuster told me too.

  • 12
    patient-marmot-127

    From a medical standpoint, what you're describing is really typical soft tissue stuff. Muscles, tendons, and ligaments can swell and stiffen gradually over several days after trauma — it's not like a broken bone where you know immediately. The headache especially can be a sign of whiplash that your body was quietly dealing with. Please do get checked out soon if you haven't already, not just for the claim but because some of these things get worse if you ignore them. Make sure you tell the doctor clearly that the symptoms started after your crash, even if there was a delay.

  • 13
    calm-grouse-166

    That "how are you doing" text is something adjusters LOVE to point to later. I'd stop communicating with the other driver's insurance on your own right now. Every word you say gets logged and they will absolutely use "I'm doing okay" against you if your claim gets bigger. They are not on your side — their job is to pay out as little as possible.

  • 9
    mellow-grouse-400

    I used to work claims and honestly? Delayed injury reports are not automatically red flags internally — we were trained that soft tissue injuries showing up 3-10 days later is medically expected. What DOES raise flags is a long gap between the crash and your first doctor visit with no explanation. So go to a doctor today if you can, and when you go, explain the timeline honestly. That medical record becomes your documentation. The casual text you sent before symptoms appeared is annoying but it's not necessarily fatal to your claim.

  • 16
    swift-raven-064

    A few things worth knowing: that text saying you were "okay" is not a recorded statement and it's not a signed release — it has way less legal weight than people fear, though it's not nothing. What matters most now is building a paper trail going forward. Doctor's notes, any imaging they order, a personal journal of your symptoms day by day — start that today. If this drags out and you end up needing to make a bodily injury claim, that documentation is everything.

  • 11
    tidy-swan-222

    Not legal advice, but I'd strongly suggest not giving any more statements to the other party's insurer until you've at least had a free consult with a personal injury attorney. Most will do it at no cost. One casual conversation where you downplay symptoms — even innocently — can become a problem. The delayed onset issue is well established medically and attorneys deal with this scenario constantly. You haven't necessarily done anything wrong, but protect yourself going forward.

  • 3
    kind-otter-288

    I just want to say please take care of yourself first. The claim stuff is stressful but your body is telling you something is wrong. Go get checked out. Everything else can wait a day — your health can't.

    • 9
      honest-parent869

      Solid advice. Getting it in writing is the part most people skip.

  • 14
    plain-bison-770

    Three things: go to the doctor today, stop talking to the insurance company without knowing your rights, and write down everything you remember about how you've felt each day since the crash while it's still fresh. That's it. Do those three things before anything else.

    • 2
      thankful-co-pilot740

      Took me three tries but they finally budged. Don't give up.