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Debt collector calling about accident from last year — refusing to send anything in writing?

So I'm kind of in a mess and hoping someone here has dealt with something similar.

About eight months ago I got into a fender-bender where the other driver's insurance found me at fault. I didn't have coverage at the time (I know, I know — lesson very much learned). I tried calling their insurance a couple times after the accident to figure out what I owed, got told someone would follow up, and then... nothing for months.

Then out of nowhere last week I get a call from some third-party collections company I'd never heard of, saying they're collecting on behalf of the original insurance company. The guy rattled off a number I owe and offered me a couple of settlement options — pay a lump sum or do monthly payments. Seemed like a big range depending on what I chose.

Here's where it gets weird. I asked him to send me everything in writing — the settlement options, an itemized breakdown of what makes up the total, proof of the actual repair costs, and confirmation that paying would fully close out the claim with no surprise fees later. He got noticeably irritated and basically said he couldn't do most of that. He gave me a reference number and the total amount but pushed back on literally everything else.

I followed up with an email to the company requesting the same info. That was a few days ago — no response yet.

Is this normal? Are debt collectors allowed to just refuse to document what they're claiming you owe? I don't want to agree to pay something without knowing what I'm actually paying for, and I definitely don't want to make a partial payment and then get chased for more later.

Any advice appreciated. I'm stressed.

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    humble-beaver-552

    Not legal advice, but this situation has a few angles worth knowing about. The FDCPA applies to third-party debt collectors and gives consumers specific rights around validation of debts. Also, before you pay anything, you'd want written confirmation that the payment fully settles and releases the claim — without that, a partial payment could be treated as acknowledgment of the full debt in some states. If the amount is significant, a quick consult with a PI or consumer-rights attorney might be worth it.

  • 18
    careful-elk-923

    That agent getting irritated when you asked for written settlement options is a red flag. That's a pressure tactic — they want you flustered and agreeing before you can think it through. If the deal is legit, there's zero reason they can't put it in an email. Zero. Hold your ground.

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    genuine-hare-554

    What the former adjuster said about debt validation is huge. The Fair Debt Collection Practices Act gives you the right to dispute the debt and request written verification. Once you do that in writing, they're supposed to pause collection activity until they provide it. I'd look that up and send a formal written request if you haven't already — your email might count, but certified mail creates a paper trail they can't ignore.

  • 16
    wise-crow-884

    Quick question — did you ever get anything in writing from the original insurance company at any point, like a letter saying they were holding you liable? Or did this collections call come completely out of nowhere with no prior written notice at all? That detail matters because it affects whether they've actually followed proper process here.

  • 12
    spry-vole-292

    Worked in claims for years and I can tell you — third-party collectors who take on subrogation claims like this vary wildly in how professional they are. Some are fine, some are basically just chasing payments with minimal documentation.

    You have every right to request a debt validation letter. Under federal law (look up the FDCPA) a debt collector is required to send you written verification of the debt if you request it within a certain window. Send your request in writing, certified mail if you can, and keep a copy. That puts them on the clock.

    • 3
      calm-dreamer469

      Really glad you posted an update — gives the rest of us some hope.

  • 11
    clever-crane-377

    Don't pay a single cent until you have in writing: (1) exactly what you're paying for, (2) that it's the full and final amount, and (3) that the claim is closed when you're done. Anyone who won't put those three things on paper is not someone you hand money to.

  • 11
    kind-otter-707

    This sounds so stressful, I'm sorry you're dealing with it. The fact that he got annoyed when you asked totally reasonable questions would make me really uncomfortable too. You're not being difficult — you're being smart. Hang in there and don't let them bully you into anything.

    • 2
      patient-passenger459

      Appreciate the detailed write-up. Saving this for later.

  • 7
    plain-swan-849

    I went through almost this exact thing after an accident where I was uninsured. A collections company called me out of nowhere and the guy was super pushy about getting me to agree to a number over the phone right then. I held firm and asked for everything in writing first. Took a few weeks but I eventually got documentation. Don't agree to anything verbal — seriously.