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I caused a minor wreck and now the other driver is suing me for way more than my policy covers — help

This whole situation has me sick to my stomach and I don't know where to turn.

About eight months ago I misjudged a turn in a parking garage and clipped the rear quarter panel of another car. We both got out, looked at it, the damage seemed pretty minor — scuff and a small crease. We swapped info and I figured that was the end of it.

Fast forward to last week and I get this certified letter from a law firm representing the other driver. They're claiming injuries, lost wages, pain and suffering — the whole thing. The number they're throwing out is dramatically higher than what my liability coverage actually is. My policy is the bare minimum my state requires, which isn't much.

I rent my apartment. My car is old. I have maybe a few hundred dollars in checking at any given time. I'm not sitting on some hidden pile of money.

The letter includes something they want me to sign — looks like a formal statement acknowledging the claim or something? I genuinely don't know if I should sign it, ignore it, call my insurance company, get my own lawyer, or just panic (which is what I'm doing right now).

Has anyone been through something like this from the at-fault side? What actually happens when someone's damages exceed your policy limits? Can they really come after me personally when I have nothing? I feel like I'm staring down a cliff here.

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  • 17
    gentle-finch-241

    I know this feels like the worst possible situation but honestly — the fact that you have minimal assets actually gives you some protection here. Plaintiffs' attorneys are pragmatic. They know they can't squeeze blood from a stone, and often these things resolve at or near the policy limits once everyone does the math. You're not necessarily facing financial ruin, even if it feels that way right now.

    • 3
      weary-walker906

      Going through something similar right now. Did following up actually move the needle for you?

  • 15
    spry-stoat-908

    The document they sent you might be called an affidavit of assets or a consent to settle — the language matters a lot. Some of them are basically just formal proof that you have limited coverage, which can actually work in your favor because it shows the other side what they're realistically dealing with. But again — don't sign blind. Your insurance company should be looped in immediately if they aren't already.

  • 13
    spry-bison-242

    Do NOT sign anything without talking to someone first. That 'acknowledgment' letter could be worded in a way that waives defenses or admits liability beyond what the accident actually established. The other side's lawyers are not your friends — they drafted that document for their client, not for you.

    • 9
      cool-kestrel-756

      Step one: call your insurance company today. Not tomorrow. Today. Tell them exactly what you told us — that you received a formal demand letter with a number above your policy limits and that they're asking you to sign something. Everything else comes after that call.

  • 11
    cool-seal-209

    I can hear how stressed you are and honestly that makes total sense. This sounds really scary. Please don't try to handle this alone — even just one phone call to your insurer will probably make you feel a little less like you're drowning. You don't have to have all the answers right now, you just have to make that first move.

  • 9
    candid-newt-518

    Not legal advice, but two things jump out at me: (1) contact your insurance carrier immediately and report that you've received this demand letter — they have deadlines they have to meet in responding and the clock may already be ticking, and (2) do not sign the document they sent without at minimum having someone review it. If your insurer drags their feet or you feel like they're not protecting your interests, that's when you'd want your own personal attorney separate from whoever they assign. Some people in excess-of-limits situations actually have claims against their own insurer for bad faith if the insurer mishandles things.

    • 7
      careful-dreamer915

      Thanks for sharing. Hope things are getting a little easier for you.

  • 8
    bright-elk-394

    I was on the other side of this — someone low-limit hit me — but I watched my cousin go through exactly your situation a few years back. First thing he did wrong was signing something without reading it carefully. Please, before you put your name on anything, call your insurance company. That's literally what they're there for. They're supposed to assign you a defense attorney when claims go over policy limits.

    • 22
      sharp-badger-518

      Okay so here's how this usually works from the inside: your insurer is obligated to defend you up to your policy limits. What that means is they'll hire a lawyer to represent you — you don't necessarily have to go find one yourself. BUT there's a catch. If the judgment comes in above your limits, they've satisfied their obligation and you're personally on the hook for the rest.

      The good news is that in most states, collecting a judgment against someone with no real assets is really difficult. Lawyers call it being 'judgment-proof.' That doesn't mean ignore it — you absolutely can't do that — but it does mean your situation may not be as catastrophic as it feels right now.

    • 2
      quiet-passenger966

      Wish I had seen this a month ago — would have saved me a lot of stress.

  • 6
    sharp-wolf-420

    Few questions that might matter here: Did you file a claim with your insurance when the accident happened, or did you try to handle it privately at first? And has your insurer already been in contact with the other side? The answers to those change things a lot. If you tried to keep insurance out of it initially, that could complicate your coverage.