The Shoulder
The Shoulder
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swift-beaver-626

Car ran a red turning left and hit me — could I have done anything differently?

Still processing what happened last week and honestly can't stop replaying it in my head wondering if there was anything I could have done.

I was heading through an intersection on a green light, going a little under the speed limit because traffic was a bit unpredictable that day. Out of nowhere, a car from the oncoming lanes just... swung a left turn directly into my path. No hesitation, no yield — just came right through. The turn signal was on (which somehow makes it worse? like they planned this?) but they had a red arrow, meaning they had absolutely no right to go.

I braked as hard as I could but there just wasn't enough space or time. They clipped my front quarter panel and we both ended up on the shoulder.

Here's what's eating at me: could I have prevented this? I keep asking myself if I should have anticipated it somehow, been going slower, hugged a different part of my lane. But I had the right of way and I was already under the speed limit. My friends keep telling me to stop blaming myself but the thoughts don't just turn off, you know?

Police came, filed a report, the other driver got cited. My car has significant front-end damage and my neck has been stiff and sore since. Going to the doctor tomorrow.

Has anyone else been in a situation like this and dealt with that mental loop of second-guessing yourself? And practically speaking — what should I be doing right now to protect myself with the insurance claim?

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    bold-fox-027

    Ugh, I went through almost the exact same mental spiral after my accident. Someone blew through a controlled intersection and I spent weeks convinced I should have seen it coming. My therapist finally asked me, 'Were you supposed to predict that another driver would break the law?' That kind of reframed it for me. You had a green. You were under the speed limit. There is nothing more you could have reasonably done. The other driver made an illegal move — full stop.

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    mellow-elk-339

    Please don't brush off that neck stiffness. I see people all the time who minimized their symptoms in the first day or two and then woke up on day four barely able to turn their head. Soft tissue injuries from sudden impact don't always peak right away. Go to that doctor appointment, describe everything even if it feels minor, and follow up if anything gets worse. Document every symptom in a notes app with timestamps — it matters more than people realize.

    • 0
      tired-commuter928

      Did you have to escalate, or did they come around after the first ask?

  • 19
    wise-crane-667

    Watch out when the other driver's insurance contacts you. They are going to be super friendly and ask how you're feeling 'just to check in.' What they're actually doing is trying to get you to say something like 'I'm doing okay' before you even know the full extent of your injuries. Don't give a recorded statement without understanding what you're agreeing to first.

    • 11
      plain-seal-763

      Stop beating yourself up, seriously. You did everything right. Reading your post I honestly got a little upset on your behalf — this person ran a red arrow and hit you, and somehow you're the one losing sleep over it? Please take care of yourself physically and emotionally. That mental replay loop is so real and so exhausting.

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    mellow-fox-037

    I used to work claims and honestly, a situation like yours — green light, cited driver, police report — is about as clean-cut as liability gets on paper. That doesn't mean the process will be fast or easy, but the documented citation from the officer is genuinely valuable. Keep that report number handy and don't let anyone tell you the citation 'doesn't prove anything.' It absolutely factors in.

  • 12
    steady-newt-155

    Not legal advice, but from what you're describing — right of way established, police report filed, other driver cited — you're in a stronger position than you might feel right now. The main thing I'd say is don't settle anything related to your physical injuries until you actually know what those injuries are. Medical evaluations take time. Just something to keep in mind before signing anything.

    • 0
      mellow-late-shift468

      Saving this whole thread. Really appreciate the honesty here.

  • 5
    kind-swift-580

    Three things: 1) Get checked out medically and keep every receipt and record. 2) Don't post details about the accident on social media. 3) Get a copy of that police report as soon as it's available. Everything else can wait, but those three things you want to handle now.

    • 2
      quiet-survivor645

      That lines up with what my adjuster told me too.

  • 5
    keen-dove-201

    Were there any witnesses, or just the two of you? And did the responding officer witness the citation firsthand or was it based on your account? Not doubting you at all — just asking because it could affect how smoothly the insurance piece goes. Witnesses or traffic cameras in the area would be a big help if this gets disputed.

    • 3
      steady-optimist688

      Going through something similar right now. Did following up actually move the needle for you?