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At-fault driver's insurance keeps stonewalling me over a technicality — is this even legal?

So I was rear-ended at a red light about three weeks ago. Pretty clear-cut situation — the other driver admitted fault on scene, and the police report backs me up completely. No injuries thank god, but my bumper and trunk area are pretty messed up.

Here's where it gets frustrating. The car that hit me was being driven by someone who borrowed it from a family member. I have the insurance info that was in the car, the policy number, and the last name on the policy. When I called the insurance company to open a claim, they told me they couldn't do anything without the full legal name of the policyholder.

I explained that the driver was just borrowing the car — not the owner, not the policyholder. Didn't matter. I gave them the policy number. Didn't matter. I have the VIN, the plate, the police report number, everything. Still stonewalling me.

I only carry liability on my own vehicle so going through my own insurance isn't really an option here. And honestly why should I have to? I didn't cause this.

Has anyone dealt with something like this before? Is there some trick to getting past the front-line reps? I feel like I'm being run around in circles on purpose. Any advice would be really appreciated — I'm losing my mind a little bit over here.

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  • 17
    quiet-hare-333

    This is a classic delay tactic. They know most people will either give up or go through their own insurance, which takes them off the hook entirely. Don't let them outlast you. Document every call — date, time, rep name or ID if they'll give it — because if this escalates you'll want that paper trail.

  • 17
    tidy-newt-712

    Try this: call back, skip the pleasantries, and immediately ask for a supervisor. When you get one, use the words 'bad faith claims handling' out loud. You don't have to threaten anything — just let them know you're aware that term exists. Watch how quickly the tone changes.

    • 10
      careful-parent138

      Same boat here. Did anyone mention a deadline to watch out for?

  • 16
    mellow-kestrel-483

    I used to work in claims and honestly? Front-line reps sometimes just don't know how to handle situations where the driver and the policyholder are different people. It's not always malicious — sometimes it's just incompetence and a rigid script. Ask to be escalated to a senior adjuster or a claims supervisor and specifically mention 'permissive use coverage.' That phrase tends to get people's attention because it signals you actually know what you're talking about.

    • 17
      humble-marten-886

      This sounds so exhausting, I'm sorry you're dealing with it. You did everything right and you're still jumping through hoops. Hope you get this sorted soon — you absolutely shouldn't be stuck paying out of pocket for someone else's mistake.

  • 12
    kind-heron-415

    Oh man, I went through almost the exact same runaround last year. Different insurance company but same energy — they kept telling me I was missing info and couldn't proceed. What finally worked for me was calling back repeatedly until I got someone who actually knew what they were doing. Took me like 8 calls but I finally got a rep who just... filed it. Don't give up, keep calling.

  • 11
    bright-owl-397

    A few things worth knowing: most auto policies cover permissive users — meaning if the owner let someone borrow the car, their policy should still apply to an accident that person causes. The insurance company's argument that they need the policyholder's first name to proceed is... thin. You might also consider filing a complaint with your state's Department of Insurance. It's free, easy, and insurance companies tend to move a lot faster once a regulator is CC'd.

  • 9
    brave-dove-962

    Not legal advice, but this kind of situation — where a third-party claimant is being stonewalled by the at-fault driver's insurer — is actually pretty common and there are ways to push back. If the damages are significant enough, a PI attorney can often cut through this quickly because insurers know an attorney letter means the situation just got more serious. Many offer free consultations so it might be worth a quick call just to understand your options.

  • 5
    candid-elk-785

    Just want to make sure I'm understanding — did the owner of the car give you any contact info, or just what was in the glovebox? And did the driver sign the police report? Wondering if there's a way to track down the policyholder's name through the DMV or small claims paperwork if the insurance thing keeps hitting a wall.

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      gentle-commuter680

      Appreciate the detailed write-up. Saving this for later.