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Anyone else losing their mind being stuck at home healing for months on end?

I don't even know where to start. It's been almost a year since my accident and I've had two procedures already with what looks like a third one coming. Before this happened I was running around constantly — managing a small crew, staying active, barely sitting still. Now I'm on the couch watching the same streaming shows on repeat and it's genuinely making me feel like I'm disappearing.

The hardest part isn't the physical pain anymore, honestly. It's the restlessness. I have this weird buzzing energy that just has nowhere to go. I'll feel okay for a few days, start thinking about getting back to some version of normal, and then something sets me back and I'm back to square one.

I've tried the whole "find a hobby" route. Bought supplies for like three different things. They're all sitting in a corner judging me. Every time I get a little momentum something changes — new diagnosis, new restriction, new wait. It starts to feel like my body is actively working against me.

I'm not trying to spiral here. I'm self-aware enough to know the depression warning signs and I'm keeping an eye on myself. Therapy helps some. But man, some days I just want to feel useful again. Like I matter in a practical, productive way, not just in a "rest and heal" way.

Does anyone else get this? The weird restless trapped energy when you literally cannot do the things that made you you? How are you handling the long haul of this?

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    wise-mole-902

    Oh my gosh YES. I was about eight months post-accident and I remember telling my partner I felt like I was aging in fast-forward just from sitting still so long. The restless energy with nowhere to go is so real and honestly nobody warns you about it. The physical healing gets all the attention but this psychological grind is its own injury. You're not alone in this at all.

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    careful-beaver-753

    What you're describing — that buzzing, trapped energy — is actually really common during extended recovery and people don't talk about it enough. Your nervous system and your brain are still running at their pre-injury pace even though your body can't keep up. A few things that helped some of my patients: very short "task sprints" (even something tiny like organizing one drawer) just to get a small hit of accomplishment, and being intentional about sunlight exposure every single day. Also, if you're not already talking to someone about the depression piece specifically, please do. It's as real as any physical symptom and it deserves treatment too.

    • 2
      weary-survivor733

      Going through something similar right now. Did following up actually move the needle for you?

  • 15
    bold-dove-883

    I just want to say I read every word of this and I felt it. The part about trying hobbies and them all sitting in a corner judging you made me laugh and feel sad at the same time. You're clearly fighting hard. That matters even when it doesn't feel like it does.

  • 11
    humble-vole-000

    I know this probably sounds annoying when you're in the thick of it, but the fact that you're self-monitoring for depression, doing the slow walks, trying things even when they don't stick — that's honestly a lot. You haven't checked out. That counts for something. The version of you that comes out the other side of this is going to be weirdly resilient in ways you can't see yet.

  • 7
    warm-elk-470

    Forget turning a hobby into a business right now — that's future-you's problem. For right now: is there anything purely mental you've been curious about? Coding, a language, reading in a genre you never touched? Your brain can go hard even when your body can't. Sometimes giving your mind a genuine challenge scratches that restless itch a little. Not a cure, but it kept me sane.

  • 5
    kind-fox-362

    How much of your day is genuinely structured vs. just open-ended? I ask because I went through a long recovery too and I found that unstructured time made the restlessness so much worse. Like having a loose plan for each day — even a dumb one — changed things more than any specific activity did.

  • 18
    kind-tern-868

    Not legal advice at all, just want to flag something since you mentioned you may need another procedure — make sure whoever is handling your case knows about every setback, every new diagnosis, every day you couldn't function. Loss of enjoyment of life, inability to work, these prolonged psychological effects — they're all part of damages. Document how you're feeling, even just in a personal journal. It matters more than most people realize. Seriously, just keep notes.

    • 1
      kind-commuter855

      This is really helpful — thank you for posting it.

  • 14
    hearty-sparrow-702

    Also want to add — if you're dealing with any insurance communication right now, be careful about what you post publicly and what you say to adjusters about "feeling better some days." They will absolutely use that framing against you. "Oh the claimant said they had good energy this week" gets twisted. I'm not saying hide how you feel, just be thoughtful.