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Almost a year out from my crash and my brain is STILL stuck on repeat. Anyone else?

I'm coming up on eleven months since my accident and physically I got lucky — some soft tissue stuff in my neck and a cracked rib that healed up fine. My doctor cleared me a while ago. On paper I'm totally okay.

But my head? Completely different situation.

Every single morning I wake up and within like ten minutes my brain just... goes back there. I can picture the whole thing frame by frame. I'll be in the grocery store and hear tires screech in the parking lot and my whole body just locks up. I've started avoiding the intersection where it happened even though it adds fifteen minutes to my commute. My partner has been really patient but I can tell it's wearing on both of us.

I was diagnosed with PTSD about two months after the crash. I've been doing therapy but honestly some weeks it feels like I'm going backward instead of forward. My therapist mentioned EMDR and we've done a few sessions — I think it's helping a little? But I still feel like I'm waiting for the day it just stops being the first thing I think about.

I guess I just want to know: does it actually get better? Like genuinely better, not just "you learn to manage it" better? And has anyone found something that actually helped move the needle for them — whether that's therapy, medication, exercise, whatever?

Also — does any of this mental/emotional stuff factor into an injury claim? My attorney mentioned it but I don't totally understand how that works.

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    daring-hare-968

    What you're describing is textbook trauma response — your nervous system genuinely got stuck in protective mode and it doesn't just switch off because the danger is gone. EMDR has really solid research behind it for exactly this kind of accident-related PTSD. A few things that helped my patients alongside therapy: consistent sleep schedule (seriously, even weekends), moderate cardio, and limiting news/violent media. Some people also do really well with a low-dose SSRI short-term while the therapy takes hold. Worth a conversation with your prescriber if you haven't already.

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    clear-vole-543

    The fact that you're in therapy and already doing EMDR sessions honestly puts you ahead of so many people who just try to white-knuckle through it alone. That takes real courage. The progress might feel invisible right now but you ARE doing the work. The "three good days" moment your fellow survivors mention up there? It's coming for you too.

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      patient-survivor295

      Seconding this. The same approach worked for me last year.

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    calm-beaver-162

    Just a heads up — if the other side's insurance ever asks to take a recorded statement or sends you paperwork about "emotional distress," be really careful about minimizing. People do it all the time because they don't want to seem dramatic, and then it gets used to lowball the claim. Your suffering is real and it counts. Don't undersell it trying to seem tough.

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      restless-mile-marker935

      Following up on this — any update on how it turned out?

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      careful-optimist845

      Going through something similar right now. Did following up actually move the needle for you?

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    spry-elk-561

    From my time on the other side of these claims, I can tell you that PTSD and documented anxiety from accidents are taken seriously when there's a paper trail — meaning ongoing treatment, a formal diagnosis in your records, and ideally some notes from your therapist about functional impact (like the avoidance behavior you mentioned). A lot of people never mention the mental health side and then wonder why their claim doesn't reflect everything they went through. Make sure your attorney knows ALL of it.

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    swift-swift-488

    Honest answer: "learning to manage it" IS genuinely getting better — that's not a consolation prize, that's actually how trauma recovery works for most people. Full erasure is rare. What you're aiming for is making the volume lower and the episodes shorter and less frequent until it stops running your life. Sounds like you're on the right path. Keep going to therapy even on the weeks it feels useless, because that's usually right before something shifts.

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    genuine-badger-994

    The intersection avoidance thing hit me hard because I did the exact same thing for almost eight months. I'd add a huge detour just to not drive past the spot. It does get better — I won't lie to you and say it flips like a switch, but one day I realized I'd gone three days without the replay and I almost cried. EMDR was the thing that finally moved it for me too. Stick with it even when it feels pointless.

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      grounded-co-pilot807

      Saving this whole thread. Really appreciate the honesty here.

  • 8
    brave-swift-874

    Not legal advice, but to answer your question — yes, psychological injuries absolutely can be part of a personal injury claim. PTSD, anxiety, and emotional distress are recognized damages. The key is documentation: therapy records, a diagnosis, notes about how it affects your daily life and work. If you're already treating and have a formal diagnosis, that's exactly what attorneys and adjusters look at. Definitely make sure whoever is handling your claim knows the full picture of what you're going through mentally, not just the physical stuff.

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      tired-traveler461

      Same boat here. Did anyone mention a deadline to watch out for?

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    clever-heron-570

    I'm so sorry you're still carrying this. Eleven months is a long time to be fighting your own brain every single day and I just want you to know that doesn't mean you're broken or weak — you went through something genuinely terrifying. Sending you so much support. Please be patient with yourself.