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6 weeks out from my accident and I barely recognize myself anymore

I don't really know how to start this so I'm just going to type and see what comes out.

About six weeks ago I was driving home from a work trip on the interstate — totally routine, route I've done probably a hundred times. A driver in the lane next to me drifted over without warning and clipped the back of my car. I spun, hit the guardrail, and that's basically where my memory goes blank. I woke up in a hospital room with my sister sitting next to me.

The doctors diagnosed me with a mild-to-moderate TBI on top of a bunch of physical stuff I'm still working through. And honestly? The physical injuries I can kind of deal with. It's everything else that's messing with me.

My personality feels different. My patience is basically zero. I used to love reading and now I can't focus long enough to get through two pages. I get overwhelmed in places that never bothered me before — grocery stores, crowded restaurants, anywhere loud. I had a full-on meltdown in a parking garage last week because I couldn't remember where I parked and everything just... crashed down on me at once.

I'm doing PT twice a week and I just started seeing a neuropsychologist, which helps a little I think. But some days it feels like the person I used to be is just gone and I'm walking around in their body pretending.

I haven't been able to get back behind the wheel. Even riding as a passenger makes my chest tight. I don't know if that ever goes away.

Has anyone else felt like this? Did it get better? I'm not looking for medical advice — I just want to know I'm not alone in this.

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    gentle-hare-375

    You are absolutely not alone. I had a TBI about two years ago after a rear-end collision and everything you described — the personality shifts, the sensory overwhelm, the concentration issues — I felt all of it. The parking garage moment hit me hard because I had almost the exact same thing happen at a shopping mall.

    What I can tell you is that it does slowly get better, but it's not linear. Some weeks I'd feel like myself again and then get knocked back. The neuropsychologist was honestly one of the best things I did. Be patient with yourself in a way you probably never had to be before. It's genuinely a different kind of healing.

    • 8
      hopeful-parent189

      Really glad you posted an update — gives the rest of us some hope.

  • 19
    warm-finch-356

    The emotional and personality changes you're describing are incredibly common with TBI and they're real neurological changes, not you being dramatic. Your brain is literally healing and rewiring. The frustration, the low patience, the sensory sensitivity — that's all part of it. The fact that you're already working with a neuropsychologist puts you ahead of a lot of people. Keep showing up to those appointments even on the days it feels pointless.

    • 4
      kind-wanderer308

      Solid advice. Getting it in writing is the part most people skip.

    • 8
      plainspoken-late-shift504

      Adding this: keep copies of every email. It mattered for me.

  • 16
    mellow-mole-520

    I just want to say thank you for sharing this. It takes a lot to be this honest, especially anonymously with strangers. I really hope you have people around you in real life who know what you're going through. You deserve so much support right now. 💙

    • 3
      hopeful-survivor385

      That lines up with what my adjuster told me too.

  • 17
    kind-lynx-070

    Please make sure everything — and I mean everything — you're experiencing is being documented. The cognitive stuff, the emotional stuff, the fact that you can't read like you used to, the driving anxiety. All of it. Insurance companies love to minimize TBI claims because the injuries aren't always visible on a scan. If adjusters are calling you, be really careful about what you say and don't give recorded statements without understanding your rights first.

    • 2
      steady-passenger965

      Seconding this. The same approach worked for me last year.

  • 14
    wise-finch-482

    Not legal advice, but TBI cases are notoriously complex from a claims standpoint specifically because so much of the damage is functional and quality-of-life based rather than a clean broken bone on an X-ray. The cognitive changes, the personality shifts, loss of enjoyment of activities you loved — those are real damages. It might be worth at least having a conversation with a PI attorney before you engage too deeply with the other driver's insurer. Most do free consultations.

    • 1
      restless-mile-marker604

      Thank you both, this gave me the push I needed to make the call.

  • 19
    wise-tern-733

    Six weeks is nothing with a TBI. I know that's not what you want to hear but it's true — don't judge your recovery at six weeks. Keep the neuropsych appointments, sleep as much as your body asks for, and cut yourself some serious slack on the driving thing. There's no timeline you're supposed to be hitting.

    • 2
      careful-commuter496

      Curious whether you did this on your own or had help with it.

  • 12
    swift-seal-729

    The fact that you're articulating all of this so clearly, reaching out, and already have a neuropsychologist involved — that's actually a really healthy response to an incredibly hard situation. A lot of people shut down completely. You're fighting even when it doesn't feel like it.

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      patient-passenger659

      Solid advice. Getting it in writing is the part most people skip.

  • 19
    brave-wren-984

    I used to work in claims and I'll be straight with you: cognitive and behavioral TBI symptoms are exactly what some adjusters are trained to cast doubt on because they're harder to quantify than a fracture. Keep a daily journal — even just bullet points — of how you're feeling, what you couldn't do that day, what activities you had to skip. That record becomes really important later if there's any dispute about how significantly this has affected your life.